That nervous excitement of wearing what you dare, and we do dare, to bare it all… almost. The costume idea came to me months ago. Could we really show up to a swingers party wearing nothing but censor bars covering our bits? A combination of loving to dress up, understanding the amazing power of the costume ice breaker and being comfortable naked created the perfect trilogy of traits to bring this, over a few beers, costume to life.
As I mentioned in my last post, I was feeling a devilish excitement with regards to this risqué costume, and as we went into full arts and crafts mode to bring the idea to life, there were flashes of nerves popping up here and there, but overall we were excited. We kept asking each other as we created each piece, “are you ok with this there?” and “will this be easy enough to take off?”. Courtesy checks and dismissing of previous comfort levels abounded as we cut out cardboard and test fit string, there was no room for our normal comfort zones with these strategically placed bars. And then came the sexiness test, which is one of the most fun aspects of arts and crafts time. Does the costume actually get the blood pumping? A few glorious yesses later and we were ready to depart.
The swing party house that we attend is set in such a way that you can really make an entrance. Once you put down your coat and such, you go down a staircase that feels almost like a grand ballroom foyer, where by the majority of the guests stand to the right mingling, and facing the staircase. Being in that space is the perfect people watching location, and with drink in hand, you can meet, mingle, and see all the new faces make their couples nervous entrance. And that is just what we did, wearing nothing but our bars, we took a deep breath and started down the stairs, in the daylight (The joys of it being light out at 9PM)!
The first few steps were tough, but before we were even halfway down, the excited and very interested exclamations of the group below started to reach our ears. And all nervousness was replaced by beaming pride. We did it, we were brave, we bared it all, and the guests loved it! This costume was the perfect combination of sexy, and ice breaker. All the guests wanted to know the mystery behind how E kept his bar on (any guesses?). And many people were delighted to find that my “bra” could be flipped up for easy access. Meeting new friends, and socializing is such a breeze when your costumes make all the introductions for you. “Hi, we are K and E, and we are exhibitionists who are confident, fun and sexy!” And you know, after that party, any trace of fake it until you make it, that I may have had is gone.
We took the irony of censoring nudity at a swingers party and created a costume that encouraged the rapid dropping of clothes and a very hot, half nude dance party. Which got the blood pumping for almost all the couples to sneak away for their sought after fun quite early on Your flaws just don’t seem to matter at that point. You forget everything at the door, all societal norms those nagging restrictions and you can just be who you are in all your sexy, raw glory. For being relatively new to the lifestyle, I have no feelings of being an outsider or have hesitations as to what is permissible, we are just having fun, living in the moment, free. So, thank you to the ladies that let it all hang out at the previous parties. You gave me the complete confidence to push the envelope myself. It was amazing, I love it, and I am not sure I can ever go back. I am no longer censored.