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Wednesday, 10 April 2013

Perceptions About Penis Size: Thanks Porn


So my last post may have come across a little critical of porn for making things look easier said then done.  But I also want to touch a bit on some good things it has done for society... and more specifically for me.  I have written a topic or two on porn just porn and how it should not be a threat to any relationship if viewed in moderation and respectfully.  And as a follow up to that, porn is more than just hot, and a way for humans to get off, porn can also be useful in our sex negative society.  Of course I say that with full knowledge that there is something out there for everybody, and I do mean everybody, which is not always a good thing.  There is not a soul out there who in good conscience can say there is any positive to child pornography.  That one is an open and shut case and I do not think needs any further discussion.

But what about my claim that some porn is actually useful and goes a step forward to creating more whole, sexual human beings?  I, growing up, was always told that men have penis envy.  Men are shy about their junk, and get easily embarrassed when they get compared to other men.  I have been told that the worst thing a girl can ever do is to tell their partner about the other penis’ they have seen, or in anyway, shape or form compare dick sizes.  This has been drilled into my head over and over, by peers, media and various other forms of social normalization I have encountered.  To go a step further, I have also been taught that men must always believe that their penis is the biggest and the best, and that it hurts their manhood to discover that some other guy is more endowed than they are.  Perhaps I am the only girl who was ever taught this extremely short-sighted  and largely inaccurate stigma.

I mentioned before a book called “A Billion Wicked Thoughts” by  Ogi Ogas and Sai Goddam, and I feel now is a great time to touch on it again.  One of the chapters specifically discussed how men are more turned on in heterosexual porn when the men in scene have a big cock.  And not just a large cock, but an extremely large cock.  This is contrary to anything I had ever heard before.  My assumption would have been that viewing a penis smaller than their own would have been more satisfying from a male dominance angle, but truth is stranger than fiction.  Thanks in part to porn and viewing larger penis’ men seem to have come to terms with other dicks being larger than their own.  I do not think this concept could be possible without having porn readily available.  And the benefits for their partners are also there.  That fear of admitting you have slept with a man who was extremely well endowed is less apparent.  Talking about it, in some cases, can even be a huge turn on.  Men are actually becoming less frightened with regards to cocks and potential inadequacies.  Honestly this concept is just downright fascinating to me.

Ron Jeremy is an icon, but he not just an icon for woman.  He is a man’s man and every interview or comment I have read about him states that he is just a really nice guy.  Why is the average man not terrified that his partner is comparing his much smaller genitals to the obviously bigger porn stars?  This is what I was lead to believe for so many years, and it amazes me just how far from the truth this actually is.  Yes, there are men who are uncomfortable with their sizes and are insecure, just as there are woman who fantasize about playing with the massive cock, but these are actually exceptions and not the norm.  And that is a really good thing, a thing that needs to continue despite what the media, would like to have us believe.  Porn is not some evil entity that is ruining our sex lives, in fact it is enhancing it.  Giving us a real visual for what is out there.  Eliminating the need to wonder and therefore worry about what might be hiding in your next door neighbors pants.  Porn is helping to alleviate the fear of the unknown, allowing us to overcome those preconceived notions that do our society harm.  Penis size is just one small way that porn is helping our society become more sex positive, and also I really like writing a blog post where I can say dick and cock so many times.

6 comments:

  1. Really, I suspect what is going on is that most men, when they watch het porn, are fantasising that they are the man, consequently it boosts their ego to watch a well hung dude!

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    1. That was my thought at first as well. However every male that I have talked to about this has said something to the extent of a large penis directly relates to the strength of a woman's orgasm. So large dick means that the female on the camera is less likely to be faking her "O" face and that increases the male viewers arousal. Nothing to do with penis envy or putting themselves in the males shoes, rather they want the woman to get off hard on screen and it takes a large dick to do that.

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    2. I don't see how that resolves anything...

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    3. What sort of resolution are you looking for?

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  2. For me I tend to think the contrary ... as a man I do like watching porn with huge dick, though I wished secretly to have that kind of penis myself than only watching that... I get the impression also that girls watch more porn these days and expect most guys to turn up with that size of penis ...

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    1. I am sure there are some woman out there who would love to have a guy show up with a big penis, just as there are men out there who would rather a female with big breasts. I think this is a preference that stands on its own, and does not have the increased viewing of porn to blame for this. I would be terrified if any guy showed up with a mandango sized penis or even comparable...Porn is fantasy, filmed with professionals not real life.

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