I recently read A billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas & Sai Gaddam, and I would recommend it as a must read for anyone wanting to learn more about their sexual desires and those of their partners. In my mind this is a smooth follow up book to Sex at Dawn, which I have previously recommended. The hard wired sexual taste cues of men versus women who are much more fluid and almost have a subconscious physical and emotional connection to sexual desires. I wrote about a man’s nature, and this book goes one step further by actually proving what men and women really want in sex based on extensive internet research. It is can be difficult for men and women to tell the truth completely, as often we don’t truly know what turns us on. The anonymity of queuing our porn searches validated their statements and groundbreaking truth regarding what visual and emotional cues really do it, so to speak, for us.
One of the later chapters in the book deals with women and why they seem to love and yearn for Vampires or as they call the erotical illusions. And the reason I bring this up is that I personally shy away from erotic literature, although this seems to be the number one erotic cue in woman. I read many romance novels as a teenager, but honestly I felt that once I experienced the real physical act of sex, that I no longer needed or desired reading about it. But I can understand how the literature can deepen the desires and fantasies for a women. Men are programmed at an early age as to what fuels them sexually. The fluidity of women on the other hand knows no bounds. This is evolutionary speaking how we co-exist so well. But a problem can arise and this I know first hand, the desire to please our men to keep them. There is a fine line between being fluid and in pleasing your man for your man’s sake and not your own.
Female turn-on’s range from simple missionary to BDSM and everything in between, around, and up and down. Our bodies and our desires can be limitless. The studies historically said that women reach their sexual peaks at 40. Truly I believe that women reach their sexual peaks as soon as they open up and accept all they are capable of what they desire for themselves. I know that many men find it hard to please a woman, and I will ask them if their women know how to please themselves? It is necessary to walk the risky line of pleasing your man, and pleasing yourself. I have stumbled and landed on the wrong side of this line numerous times and will probably stumble a few more times. I do know for certain though that awareness about what is going on around me and for me is the first step to understanding and enlightenment.